Sometimes, kids just don’t listen. Maybe they are distracted or simply don’t want to hear what you’re saying. For whatever reason, it’s a normal part of growing up and most parents will have to deal with it at some point. Things will go a lot smoother for everyone if you know what to do when your child doesn’t listen to you and the tips below may help.
Find Out Why Your Child Is Not Listening
It’s normal to feel frustrated and a little annoyed when your kids don’t listen. However, instead of getting upset or mad, try to find out why he’s not listening. Perhaps you’re giving the same old speech he’s heard a thousand times so he gets bored or maybe you tend to be negative and critical and it makes him feel bad so he doesn’t want to hear it.
If not listening is out of character for your child, there may be something going on in his life that is distracting him and preventing him from listen to you. Changes in behavior often mean a change in the person’s life, so take steps to get to the root of the problem and find out why he isn’t listening instead of getting upset.
Talk to Your Child
When your child doesn’t listen to you, it’s a good time to sit down together and calmly talk about it. Say that you have noticed a change in his behavior and that he is not listening. Then, ask why. Ask if there is a problem that you can talk about and search for a solution to it together. He may just be going through a phrase where he doesn’t understand why it’s important to listen but you won’t know what is going on until you ask.
Letting your child know that you noticed the change in his behavior, lets him know that you’re paying attention to him when maybe he thought you weren’t. Talking and letting him know that you’re there for him is a great way to open the doors of communication so you can build a good relationship and get closer to your child.
Be a Role Model
It’s easy to tell kids to listen to you when you speak and it’s normal to get a little annoyed when they don’t. However, if you’re not being a good role model how can you expect him to do something you’re not doing yourself? Do you listen when your child talks to you? If not, it’s time to make a few changes and be a good role model.
Make sure you’re setting the right example for your children and always listen to them when they come to you with a real problem or complaint so you can talk things out. If it’s not important and you’re taking care of business, acknowledge him and tell him you will get back with him as soon as you finish and make it a point to do so. If you respect and listen to your child, he will most likely show you the same courtesy.
When parents and children communicate, the household runs smoother and there’s more time for having fun together. These three tips can help you build a strong relationship with your child based on love and respect for each other. If he’s not listening, there may be a reason so take time to find and fix the problem.